The unspeakable Speakmans

Someone in the clinic where I worked asked me if I'd seen this TV show 'The Speakman's' yet.. I hadn't even heard of it (I don't watch live TV- takes up too much time) but am always interested in catching something that's been recommended. I was told 'they do amazing things like cure phobias' - really fast!' I was intrigued.

I watched the show on itvplayer - with my mouth open most of the time. The programme is very much in the shlock reality TV mould with frequent add breaks and reminders after of what you've just viewed (in case you've forgotten!). My first reaction, I'll admit was one of horror. These people look like your worst idea of celebrity chasers. He (the husband of the man and woman duo) looks like a middle aged man trying to look young - hideous haircut, and his wife is the blond bimbette type. They have a 'fabulous' house in Rochdale, several ridiculously expensive cars, surrounded by the obvious trappings of wealth, but with no taste. Never mind. I got that bit out the way and then I tried to concentrate on their methods...

Hard to decipher as in fact, the TV format doesn't really go into detail - they have a conversation, they isolate the causative event in the persons life and then they do basic NLP manoeuvres on those memories. They also aren't afraid to humiliate the client if that is what it takes. They call it 'schema reconditioning'. So, they use eye movements, sometimes body movements, freeze framing and running the story backwards, etc to break the link between the memory and the disabling beliefs that surround it.. Fascinating. Now, it's difficult to know exactly how much of what you see is edited out from what actually happened but, on the surface at least, it gets results.

And, in time I must admit I began to think well they're onto something here. So, then I began to think about how I run the 'fast phobia cure' which is an established hypnotherapy technique - it's not dissimilar. What, works for them I think is the expectation ('therapists to the stars!' is how they're billed). As we know, in treatment setting up a positive expectation is 3/4 of treatment. But as for the rest, I don't quite  know how to explain their success. He, certainly seems to know his stuff, she is probably the bubbly, bright eye candy component but you can't fail after a while to start to like them in all their exuberant awfulness. They LOVE their life as they keep telling you and want to spread their joy around. As Nik Speakman says - you're only born with 2 phobias naturally - fear of confined spaces and fear of loud noises (he's not quite right there there's a couple more) - everything else is learned behaviour and can therefore be unlearned.

So, that, my friends and followers concurs with my attitude to life. We deserve more than to be stuck. We deserve to live life in joy and health. I can't quite agree with his saying 'what do you want qualifications or results?' - because  ideally you'd have both. You'd want your therapist to be accredited, to really know their stuff, and to be effective. That's my aim anyhow. Go Speakmans!

Clinical Hypnotherapist at last!

2 weeks ago I graduated in Clinical hypnotherapy, clutching my certificate and thinking 'now what?'. I have focussed on this moment for the last year so if feels odd to suddenly be free to practise but not know how to start. I have a website www.alchemytherapies.co.uk which has my hypnotherapy page. I try to update regularly and there are some free downloads on that website including some explaining hypnotherapy and the particular use I make of it for chronic conditions. as a tool for re-arranging the mindbody link (where certain memories/traumas are encoded in the body) I find it unsurpassed.

I am aiming to  use it to help clients overcome any limitation whether that be physical, emotional or mental. There is so much trauma out there - and most of it not obvious. A lot of disease has its roots in childhood trauma; it may be something obvious like abuse but often it is something more indistinct - an unloving parent, lack of stability, etc. We may think we have 'got over it' because we have made lives for ourselves as adults but in fact there are lingering beliefs and values that trip us up. Feelings of unworthiness for instance, dog us at every step (particularly women I find though it's not exclusive to them). Ultimately we believe that we ought not to give up security to live the life we want - we ought to work harder, strive for the love that's missing in our lives, do more, be more, and so on. This is exhausting and the longer we 'try' the more we focus on not being true to ourselves. This is how we slowly but surely succumb to dis-ease and depression.

It's not easy to become aware of these subconscious beliefs - it's not simply a case of 'deciding' to let go. This is a process and it needs

1. awareness - becoming mindful of what you tell yourself - the negative self-talk e.g  'I'm useless'
2. challenge - here's where we ask the all important question - is that true? 'what at everything?'
3. substitution - CBT therapists like myself use the term 'restructuring'. 'I'm good at other things'

Hypnosis makes this process infinitely more powerful as it talks to a deeper part of you that is holding on to these beliefs by switching off the analytical mind. You can't make these changes by willpower alone. You have to have access to that deeper part of you - and there are many techniques for doing this of which hypnosis, meditation, breath-work and bodywork (massage, Reiki) are some.

My reading and practice makes it clear that no one size fits all in this respect. Some people respond more to touch, others to a mindful exploration. That is why, in the end I have chosen to call myself a 'holistic therapist' and not one or the other. I treat the person not the disease/condition. This means I have to choose from a range of approaches and, working with the client, design a treatment plan. Nutrition is always a part because you can't work on a body that is struggling with toxins and expect it to work optimally. But ultimately, I use intuition and consultation with the client to work together to heal whatever they have come in with. This is true (w)holism. Interestingly the words whole, and heal come from the same root which signifies to me that for true healing we must become whole again. I'll leave with that profound thought...

Hypnotherapy influences

As some of you know I am busy doing the HPD Hypnotherapy diploma at the moment which is becoming recognised as the top qualification in the UK. Am currently up to my eyes in writing my case notes for my case studies. I am very pleased to find that even with my relative inexperience I can make a difference to the people I am seeing. I have four very different clients with different problems; cravings, lack of motivation, overcoming pain and trauma, finding peace and an authentic voice. You wouldn't believe perhaps that hypnotherapy could help such a disparate group of issues but clearly it can and does.

I am a CBT therapist in that I believe in giving people skills that they can use outside of therapy and in their future lives using evidence-based methods. I am influence by many different therapist - Michael Yapko is one clinician/writer who I really rate. His writing is really top-notch and his understanding that it is the therapist/client interaction that makes the most difference in outcome is something that I have a lot of belief in. However, I have also been heavily influence by the work of Gil Boyne. If you’ve been interested in hypnosis for any time, you’ll no doubt have heard of Gil Boyne, who is one of the most famous hypnotherapists of this century.

His skilful use of suggestion and age regression to overcome trauma have been very illuminating. Gil trained more than 12,000 hypnotists worldwide, and many more benefit from his work without knowing where it came from. Although Gil died in May 2010 I  found out that his work is available online and I took the plunge and subscribed so I could see his methods and learn from someone with 55 years of clinical experience . If any of you are interested in seeing a master at work just check out;

http://pworby0.gilboyneonline.com
What I loved about his approach is it's simplicity and honesty - here is a man who not only really cared about his clients but had the depth of knowledge and clinical experience to pull it off. If any of you are interested in becoming a hypnotherapist, or just someone with an interest in hypnosis, there is no better person to learn from than one of the pioneers of modern hypnotherapy, so I recommend you check it out while it’s on special offer right now. As it's in dollars not pounds when you add in the strength of the pound right now it really isn't expensive - around £75 . Then, if that piques your interest contact the Adam Eason School of hypnotherapy and do a course - I did it out of interest to see what hypnotherapy was and found it personally and professionally transformative.
Anyway better get back to the case studies- hypnotherapy is SO COOL and I am really excited to be doing it...